It’s easy to say, “I love them for Allah.” But here’s the real test…
1. Would you still make Dua for them… if they were no longer in your life?
Loving for Allah means praying for their goodness—even if they’re not yours. Even if they chose someone else. Even if you’re left with silence. Because real love doesn’t end when the story ends. It turns into sincere Dua.
2. Do you care for them without expecting anything back?
This one’s hard. But it’s the core. If your care is genuine, you don’t need a reply. You don’t wait for attention. You don’t act just to be seen. You help, guide, and support—even quietly—because you want reward from Allah, not validation from them.
3. Can you let go without gossiping, slandering, or turning bitter?
Love that becomes hateful when it’s rejected was never for Allah. It was for your ego. The Prophet ﷺ taught us that believers don't harm each other with their tongues—even after parting. If your love ends, your character shouldn’t.
4. Are you still obeying Allah in how you love them?
Let’s be honest: if it’s secret, sinful, or full of guilt, it’s not for Allah. No matter how “halal” it looks on the outside. The Qur’an says: “Do not even go near zina.” That includes emotional sin, not just physical. Love with obedience—or don’t call it love for Allah.
5. Does your love push you toward Deen—or toward distraction?
If your salah weakens, if your peace disappears, if your heart becomes consumed—it’s not love. It’s addiction. Real love gives you space to grow, not chains to suffocate. It brings you back to Allah, not away from Him.
6. Would you still want Jannah for them—even if they never choose you?
That’s the ultimate sign. If your heart can still wish them Paradise without bitterness, you’ve reached sincerity. Because your love was for their soul, not their presence.