It hurts.
And no one really prepares you for it.
You fall. They don’t.
You wait. They move on.
You replay moments. They don’t even remember them.
And the worst part? You can’t even get mad. Because they never promised you anything. You just… hoped.
One-sided love is a silent war inside your heart.
You’re not technically “in a relationship,” but you carry all the emotional weight of one. You check their profile every day. You memorize their schedule. You celebrate their wins in your heart like you’re part of their life. But you’re not. Not really.
You give so much without asking for anything back—because asking feels like too much. You just want them to notice. To care. To finally realize what they have in front of them.
But here’s the truth most people won’t say out loud:
You weren’t loving them. You were begging for emotional crumbs.
And that’s not love. That’s survival. That’s obsession disguised as loyalty. That’s trauma bonding disguised as patience. That’s you trying to prove your worth to someone who never asked you to.
You deserve more than unspoken love stories in your head.
The Prophet ﷺ said, “None of you truly believes until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself.” That includes love. That includes care. Love isn’t meant to be held hostage inside one heart. If it’s not mutual, it’s not complete. It’s not fair to your soul.
But I loved them for Allah… right?
Maybe you did. But loving someone for Allah doesn’t mean breaking your heart for them. It doesn’t mean constantly checking your phone, shrinking your worth, and calling it “Sabr.”
If you truly loved them for Allah—you would have:
- Prayed for them, not obsessed over them.
- Set boundaries, not sacrificed your peace.
- Let go when the connection became harmful.
Real love, the one for Allah, never leads to guilt, shame, or exhaustion. It leads to purity—even if it ends.
One-sided love steals your identity if you’re not careful.
It changes how you see yourself. You start questioning, “Why am I not enough?” You think if you just dress better, talk sweeter, stay longer—they’ll finally see you.
But the painful truth? Sometimes people don’t love you back… not because you weren’t enough—but because they were never meant to carry your love in the first place.
You’re not unlovable. You’re just pouring into the wrong cup.
And you can’t fill someone who was never thirsty for you. You can’t heal your emptiness by holding on to someone who keeps you halfway.
Let go. Not because you hate them. But because you love your peace more.
Let go. Not because they’re bad. But because you finally understand that your love deserves return, not just silence.
So here’s what no one tells you about one-sided love:
It doesn’t go away the moment you decide to stop.
It lingers. It haunts. It shows up in your dreams.
But it also teaches.
It breaks, but it also rebuilds.
One day you’ll look back and realize:
That person wasn’t the love of your life.
They were just the mirror that showed you how deeply you could feel—and how much you needed to heal.