You’re Not in Love. You’re Just Stuck.
Let’s be honest—this doesn’t feel like love. It feels like suffocation. You check their profile ten times a day. You overthink every silence. You imagine conversations that never happened. And deep down, you know: this isn’t love. It’s something darker. It’s obsession. And it’s stealing your focus, your peace, and your connection with Allah.
Real love in Islam brings sakoon—peace, not chaos. But this thing? It’s eating you alive. You’ve placed them where only Allah belongs: the center of your heart. No wonder you feel lost. When the heart turns away from its Creator, it starts chasing shadows—and shadows don’t love you back.
The Hidden Shirk You Don’t Talk About
Ibn Qayyim said it straight: the heart that attaches to anything more than Allah will be punished by it. And that’s exactly what obsession feels like—a slow punishment. You become a slave to their replies. Your prayers lose focus. Your mind races with what-ifs. You’re no longer worshipping Allah; you’re worshipping attention. That’s not romance. That’s spiritual self-destruction.
You Don’t Need Closure. You Need God.
People chase closure. But obsession doesn’t need answers. It needs surrender. You need to cut the cord, not keep reading old texts. Obsession dies the moment you truly trust that Allah removes who He must—and replaces them with something better. Let go. Block them. Cleanse your mind. Then fill it with Quran. You’re not empty—you’re just spiritually starved.
What Science Says About Obsession
This isn’t just a “you” problem. Brain scans show that obsessive love lights up the same areas as drug addiction. Dopamine floods your system, and suddenly you’re hooked—on someone who might not even care. That’s why it hurts like withdrawal. But here’s the good news: habits change brains. Islam’s system—five prayers, fasting, structure, purpose—isn’t just for the soul. It literally rewires your brain.
You Think You Miss Them. You Miss Who You Were Around Them.
Here’s a hard truth: sometimes it’s not even about the person. It’s about who you thought you were when you had them. The attention. The fantasy. The future you pictured. But Islam teaches reality—not illusion. The Prophet ﷺ said: “Be in this world like a traveler.” Travelers don’t build homes in storms. And if this “love” is damaging your iman, then it’s a storm—not a blessing.
Fix Your Focus. And Watch What Falls Away.
When your day is full of prayer, purpose, discipline, fitness, goals—you won’t have space to obsess. The Prophet ﷺ told us to value time before it’s gone. Obsession is a thief. It steals your youth, your time, your mental health. Replace it with growth. Wake up for fajr. Read a page of Quran. Build a life so full of light that darkness can’t stay.
The Dua That Changes Everything
Repeat this every day:
"Ya Muqallib al-quloob, thabbit qalbi ‘ala deenik.”
O Turner of hearts, make my heart firm on Your path.
And mean it. Ask Allah to remove anything that blocks your peace—even if it’s someone you love. Because when Allah takes, it’s always mercy. And when He gives, it’s always better.
You’re Not Weak. You’re Just Redirecting.
This is your moment. Not to chase. Not to fix. But to return—to Allah. Obsession ends when you finally say: “Ya Allah, I don’t want them if they cost me You.” That’s power. That’s healing. That’s the kind of love that frees your soul instead of chaining it.
And trust me—Allah hears that kind of cry.