Love Calms You. Obsession Eats You Alive
Love in Islam isn’t supposed to make you anxious. It’s supposed to bring sukun—a sense of stillness inside you. Allah didn’t say love brings thrill, or obsession, or madness. He said “tranquility and mercy” (Qur’an 30:21). So ask yourself honestly—if your chest feels tight, if your thoughts are spinning, if you’re begging for attention—are you really in love? Or are you just addicted to a feeling?
They Became Your Qibla—and You Didn't Even Notice
Check your thoughts. If your heart jumps at their notification but feels nothing in salah—there’s a shift. If their opinion affects your day more than Allah’s approval… something is off. This is what Ibn Qayyim warned about: when your heart attaches to something more than it should, Allah allows that very thing to break you. That pain isn’t random. It’s mercy in disguise.
Science Doesn’t Lie—Your Brain Is Hooked
Neuroscientists found that obsessive love lights up the same parts of your brain as drug addiction. Literally. Dopamine rushes. You crave them. Then you crash. Then you crave again. It’s a cycle—and you call it love because it feels intense. But love doesn’t make you sick. Obsession does. Your soul feels the difference, even if your heart’s too noisy to listen.
You Call It Fate. But You’re Just Ignoring the Warnings.
The Prophet ﷺ said, “A believer is not stung from the same hole twice.” But here you are, justifying the same pain again and again—calling it “meant to be” while you bleed inside. Love makes you wiser. Obsession makes you blind. And every red flag you overlook today will return tomorrow as heartbreak you could’ve avoided.
You’re Disappearing Bit by Bit—And They Don’t Even See It
You weren’t always like this. You used to have your own values, your own center. But now you’re bending, shrinking, performing—just hoping they’ll stay. And the worst part? It’s not even working. Because obsession never earns love. It just drains you until nothing’s left. Islam gave you izzah—dignity. You were never meant to become small for anyone.
When Love Takes You Away from Allah—It’s a Fitnah, Not a Blessing
The Prophet ﷺ once prayed, “Ya Allah, don’t test us through our faith.” But sometimes obsession becomes the very test that pulls you away from your Lord. You’ll feel it—when you start skipping your prayers, losing your peace, breaking your own limits. That’s not love. That’s the moment to walk away, before the damage becomes deeper than your desire.
Your Healing Begins When You Stop Chasing and Start Surrendering
You don’t need to hate them. You just need to free your heart. Stop begging for crumbs of validation from someone who can’t even carry their own soul. Return your gaze to the One who never forgets you. Let Allah be your center again. And you’ll realize: it was never about them. You just got lost trying to fill a space only Allah was meant to hold.